Husbands-Well, what I have learned in 12 years!

Periodically, I participate in a Writer’s Workshop over at “Mama Kat’s Losin’ It”. One of this week’s writing prompts was: Husbands. A post that hopefully will not get you in trouble.

Ya’ll know I keep saying that I am gonna write a book about being a woman and marriage is a HUGE part of that (for me). I have been married for almost twelve years to my high school sweetheart which means we have been together well over half of our lives. I would guess that is why most marriages start out with the preacher saying something like: “Marriage is not to be entered into unadvisedly”.

Ok so instead of a long post about how fabulous my husband is and how everything is just WONDERFUL (gag), I am going to list the top 3 things I learned about husbands by being married to the man of my dreams (awwwwh).

DRUM ROLL PLEASE:

#3 Husbands are capable of a whole lot more than we give them credit for!

I have finally learned to allow my husband to do things with the girls or around the house without me constantly NAGGING him to do it or hovering over him like a helicopter. Sure, he may not do things exactly the way I would do them but he CAN do a lot. Allowing him to do things his way has helped me stop being SUPER Mommy! Super Mommy sounds great but she gets overwhelmed and stressed out really easily. After chatting with many women I have learned that if we keep over riding our husbands, they will LET US DO IT ALL and sit back and watch.

#2 If you have not contemplated murder or at least bodily harm to your husband, you are just NOT normal! (Just joking!)

Divas, I love my husband but there have been times when I could just knock him in his head with a cast iron frying pan. The people who smiled at me on my wedding day and wished us well did NOT tell me about disagreements. I have learned on my own that there is a way to fight fair. Even though neck and eye rolling with arms folded comes natural for me, it is not always the best way to communicate that Mama is NOT happy.

Marriage puts two people with two different upbringings and two different thoughts about everything: how children should be raised, finances, jobs, EVERYTHING. Let’s not even throw meddling in-laws in the bag. Communication, communication and more communication then devising a plan TOGETHER is the only solution! Then you gotta get real. Nobody gets along every day!

#1. A husband can bring out the best in you, an extension of yourself, your “other half”!

Genesis 2: 18-24
The LORD God said, “It isn’t good for the man to live alone. I need to make a suitable partner for him.” …. So the LORD God made him fall into a deep sleep, and he took out one of the man’s ribs. Then after closing the man’s side, the LORD made a woman out of the rib.

The LORD God brought her to the man, and the man exclaimed, “Here is someone like me!
She is part of my body, my own flesh and bones. She came from me, a man. So I will name her Woman!”

That’s why a man will leave his own father and mother. He marries a woman, and the two of them become like one person.